Who we are

Life can be chaotic at times and decision making can be difficult. Our relationships can feel messy and unmanageable and we might find it hard to understand what we truly want. Well, the first step in taking on the messiness, is to engage in conversation and ask yourself important questions. Reality Project exists to help people like you navigate some of the big questions you're facing about life, relationships and sex like: 

What does a healthy relationship look like?

Is sex just physical or is there more to it than that?

What is love?

What does it mean to be ready to have sex? 

What if I don’t want to have sex, but I’m being pressured?

Or, maybe you find yourself asking “Why do relationships have to be so hard?” “Why is love so messy?”. We are all going to have questions and confusion around these topics and we want you all to be able to make educated decisions with confidence. Thinking deeply about your questions, and what matters to you specifically are important if you want to be able to care for yourself and your future. We use research and lived experience to encourage a deeper understanding of self and others because our goal is that you feel positive and hopeful about yourself, your relationships, and your future. 

What we do

Normally we present in about 30 high schools in the greater Portland area. Given current events, though, we've switched things up and are offering our content online! We talk about a range of topics from sex, to porn and sex trafficking, to the importance of having healthy relationships and what they look like. When presenting in person we are able to make the presentation fun and interactive. We are working to make the online content the same and always appreciate feedback!


Why we do it

When I was in high school, I honestly wouldn’t have known how to answer questions about why it’s important to make healthy sexual decisions. I do what I do because I want young people to have the information that I didn’t, and because it’s so important that they know they are loved and they are valuable.


- McKenzie, Reality Project Director 

We honestly care a lot about young people and the one thing we really want to remind you is that you are valuable and that the things that are important to you matter. We want you to be able to make the decisions that are healthiest for you personally, but this is not always easy to do because life is confusing and hectic. We hope to give you a space to reflect and think deeply about all these important topics, so you can feel hopeful and in control.